Wondering whether or not you are in a situationship?
With relationships often being confusing these days, it can be hard to know where you are at. That is why we created the following situationship quiz to help you assess where your relationship is at. Begin by asking yourself the following questions:
1. Is your relationship lacking definition?
Have you had the conversation about your relationship status - are you boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you feel like this topic is being ignored? Maybe you have asked the question and the response is, "oh, we are just hanging out."
2. Do you avoid talking about the future together?
Do you feel like you don't know where the relationship is going? Does there seem to be a lack of intentionality? Is the relationship more focused on the here and now?
3. Does your partner fail to make you feel special?
Does your partner flirt with others? Do you feel like you are just another person to them, rather than their special person?
4. Do you feel like communication is lacking?
Healthy relationships are built around good communication. Do you feel like you are constantly wondering where the other person is at? Do you feel a lack of safety when you bring up certain topics?
5. Does your partner avoid the commitment conversation?
This is a huge indicator that you are in a situationship. Situationships are at their core defined by a lack of direction.
6. do you feel like conversations are casual rather than deep?
This is another big indicator. Situationships are casual. Conversations within them are casual. It can be hard to bring up deep topics, partly because the depth of knowing the other person does not exist and therefore trust is lacking.
7. Is it mainly about physical connection?
Do you care about each other's mental and emotional health? Or do you feel like the entire relationship is centered around physical attraction and connection?
8. have you never met their friends and family?
Are they hesitant about you meeting their friends and family? This could be a sign that they are not serious.
9. do you feel like you can't be yourself around them?
You cannot be in a real relationship if you cannot be yourself. Do you feel like you have to be someone else around them?
10. do you feel like you are giving more than you are getting?
This is a sign of a one-sided relationship, which is how a situationship often manifests itself.
Conclusion
If you answered yes to the majority of these ten questions, then it is quite probable that you are in a situationship.
Here are Luli Health, we believe you are worthy of the real thing - a healthy, committed relationship where you are valued and supported. Girl, don’t settle for less. True love is out there for you. Take care of yourself and don’t allow your partner to mess with your boundaries and desires. To find out more about this subject, check out our other blogs on situationships and discover how to end a situationship.
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