An unplanned pregnancy can stir up a mix of emotions—fear, confusion, anxiety, even joy. In this honest and heartfelt episode, we sit down with Stephanie Lee to unpack what real support looks like during this life-altering moment.
Whether you're a friend, parent, mentor, or leader, here are some thoughtful ways to support someone walking through an unplanned pregnancy.
1. Pause, Listen, and Seek to Empathize
Before you give advice or ask questions, just listen. Sit with her and let her speak freely.
Unplanned pregnancies often come with shock, fear, grief, or uncertainty. She might not even know how she feels yet. That’s okay. Your job isn’t to fix—it’s to simply be there for her.
Say things like:
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“That’s a lot—how are you holding up?”
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“I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here.”
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“You don’t have to go through this alone.”
Empathy isn’t about solving the problem. It’s about showing her she’s not facing it in isolation.
2. Be Her Encouragement
In a world quick to criticize or question, you can be a voice of truth and encouragement.
Tell her what you see in her: strength, courage, capacity. Remind her of who she is beyond the circumstances. Even if she doesn’t feel it yet, your words can start to reshape the narrative in her mind.
Say things like:
3. Offer Practical Support
Words matter—but so do actions. Support her emotionally and practically. Even small gestures can carry big weight.
Ask what she needs. Or offer something specific:
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“Can I go to your appointment with you?”
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“Can I bring dinner this week?”
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“Do you want help researching local resources?”
This kind of help doesn’t pressure—it empowers.
4. Connect Her to Trusted Resources
You don’t have to have all the answers—but you can help her find them.
Point her toward places that will treat her with compassion, dignity, and care:
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Local pregnancy resource centers
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Support groups for single moms or young families
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Counseling or mentorship
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Housing, healthcare, or financial support organizations
Make sure the support respects her values and gives her space to make informed decisions with confidence. You can find resources right here on our website! Visit our pregnant? page to learn more.
5. Stay Consistent
Sometimes the most powerful support isn’t what you say, it’s how you stay.
The unplanned pregnancy might be the beginning of a long and winding path. Your ongoing presence and support will speak volumes.
Don’t disappear after the initial shock wears off. Text her. Call her. Show up with coffee or a listening ear. Ask how she’s really doing weeks or months down the road.
Your quiet consistency may be what gets her through the hardest days.
To Anyone Facing an Unplanned Pregnancy:
If you’re reading this and you are the one who’s unexpectedly pregnant, please hear this:
You are not alone.
There are people who will walk with you, listen to you, and support you.
Your life still holds purpose. Your story is not over. And there is hope, even if today doesn’t feel like it.
Reach out, ask for help, and remember, you don’t have to do this on your own.
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